Thrive State Podcast

EPISODE 209: Playing Offense in Life: How to Lead, Win, and Thrive with Paul Epstein

Episode 209: Paul Epstein

In life and business, are you playing offense or defense? This powerful question lies at the heart of high performance, leadership, and purpose-driven success. In this episode of the Thrive State Podcast, I sit down with Paul Epstein, a former sports executive turned leadership coach, to explore the mindset shifts that drive unstoppable growth.

Why Playing Offense Matters

Paul’s book, The Power of Playing Offense, introduces a crucial mindset shift: leading with intention rather than reacting to circumstances. Too often, people play defense—letting life happen to them instead of taking charge. Whether in business, health, or relationships, those who thrive make proactive, purpose-driven decisions.

The key? Self-leadership. Before we can lead others—whether a team, a business, or a family—we must first lead ourselves.

The Head-Heart-Hands Equation

Paul’s Head-Heart-Hands framework offers a practical method for making aligned, powerful decisions:

Head (Logic) – Does this make sense?
Heart (Passion) – Does this feel right?
Hands (Action) – Am I willing to commit?

When all three align, you know you’re making the right move. This framework is a game-changer for overcoming hesitation and stepping into greater leadership.

Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

Many of us hesitate to take bold action because of fear. What if I fail? What if I’m not good enough? Paul and I discuss how shifting into an offensive mindset transforms fear into fuel.

Science backs this up. Studies show that those with a growth mindset—who see failure as a stepping stone rather than a setback—are significantly more likely to succeed.

Final Takeaways

Self-leadership fuels success. Before leading others, lead yourself.
Use the Head-Heart-Hands equation to align logic, passion, and action.
Overcome fear by shifting to an offense mindset. Growth comes from taking action despite discomfort.
Purpose is the ultimate performance enhancer. When your work aligns with what truly matters, success follows.

If you’re ready to elevate your health, longevity, and human potential, dive deeper into these transformative principles with my bestselling book, Thrive State, available at thrivestatebook.com.

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