Thrive State Podcast

EPISODE 58: Own Your Voice, Own Your Life

Episode 58: Caroline Goyder

Have you been on stage? And spoke to a huge crowd?

Remember your first time?
Heart racing
Shaky (even sweaty) hands
You couldn’t even see the person at front row because you just can’t focus
And then, when you’re about to utter your first words, your audience may have even heard the tremble in your voice, your breath.

Well, science says, it’s the stress and it can, of course, affect your voice. It’s connected to emotion and being in front of an overwhelming audience is sure a stressful event (at least, technically).

Until you’re able to reclaim your control. But how?

Are some people just natural when it comes to this? Technically, we all are.

As children, we used to. But a lot happens along the way affecting our voice. Taking away our ability to own it and use it to manifest the best of our intentions and abilities.

Celebrity voice expert and best selling author Caroline Goyder unraveled the answer to that mystery question: how do I find my voice?

Caroline worked for over a decade at Royal Central School of Speech and Drama in London as a voice coach. She is the author of Gravitas: Communicate with Confidence, Influence and Authority, Star Qualities and Find your Voice. Her 2014 TEDx on the Surprising Secret to Speaking with Confidence has been viewed over 7.5 million times.

Caroline works as an expert speaker and trainer with senior management within organizations as well as private individuals. With Gravitas Training, people learn to own the room with compelling, authentic presence, find their voices, and grace under fire.

Catch this short and crisp episode of the Thrive State podcast with Caroline Goyder, best selling author and celebrity vocal expert and coach behind the Gravitas Method. Very practical tips + expert wisdom to owning your voice, and owning your moment and life!

Find out more about Caroline at carolinegoyder.com and @carolinegiyder on IG!

Show notes

4:46

Losing Your Voice: The reason we lose our voices is something that happens at school. Our voices move up the power center in our guts, which is the lungs, and all the support muscles that produce powerful voices because we forget that there’s a connection. It happens to anybody who isn’t in their bodies.

8:04

The Gravitas Method: Finding and knowing your voice with neuro-linguistic programming. The methodology is for more practical challenges rather than clinically diagnosed trauma. This is for people who might be scared to share their authentic voice, biologically not having competence, or being in that stress state.

9:46

It is about helping someone self-regulate, pause ground, find good alignment, know how to breathe in, in a way that allows the system to feel safe rather than that kind of panic breath that people do on stage. Ultimately, it’s about finding congruence; about someone feeling that they have permission to walk out on the stage and be who they are.

15:46-17:14

It starts with a Pause: You breathe in ideas, pause, close your mouth and wait. Let the next thought arrive, and then speak it.

18:18

Tips and Hacks for the Breath: Teach your brain and your breath to match your thought and the need for the length of your line. If we match the breath that comes into the thought that we speak, we’re in control.

23:18

Gravitas the Book and Course: Finding your voice in the corporate sector. It’s about how you take the instrument, that is the voice, and find more calm, confidence and ease as a speaker, and how you really get congruent.

24:49

Caroline’s Best Medicine: The Alexander technique. It’s a life-changing discipline created by FM Alexander, who was a speaker who kept losing his voice. He realized his alignment, his posture was the issue and he self-taught himself to find the perfect posture of a toddler. It helped me find my alignment, my ease, my voice. I felt so much calmer. It’s magic.

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